5 Reasons a Partner Might Not be Too Keen, and How We Can Help
It’s not unusual for a partner to be unsure about fostering. Becoming foster carers is a huge commitment! You have to be responsible, organised, and caring. Plus, it takes up a lot of your time. If you want to understand your partner’s point of view, here are five reasons a partner might not be too keen on fostering.
You Already Have Children
Children and young people don’t always get along. A new child in your home will impact your biological children. Depending on the level of support and how you choose to parent, that can either be a good or a bad thing. It is understandable for a parent to be concerned about this.
Our fostering service ensures you – and your kids – are fully supported. We always endeavour to provide the best match, one that works well for the entire family.
It Might Hinder Their Career
Looking after young people requires time. You or your partner might have to quit your careers, which is not something to take lightly. Your partner might worry that they can only foster if they give up their jobs. Or, they might be concerned that the stress from fostering will impact their performance at work.
You Don’t Have the Skills
Your partner might worry that they don’t have the necessary skills. Parenting is undoubtedly challenging, but there is plenty of training to get you ready for it. You won’t go in blind!
It’s a Long Commitment
There is a difference between long term and short term fostering. If your partner is worried about the length of the commitment, you can always start with short-term foster care. That means you only look at a child for a short period – from as little as a day. Even if you really want to be a foster parent, it’s a good idea to start slow.
It is a Complicated Process
To get approved as a foster parent, you will need to do things like fill out an application form and schedule a meeting with a fostering panel. While the process isn’t as simple as filling out a single form (and nor should it be!), you can always ask for help.
You usually receive better support when fostering with an agency rather than a local authority. If you choose to foster with us at Orange Grove Foster Care, you will be supported throughout your entire fostering journey.
You can’t expect your partner to say ‘I want to be a foster parent’ straight away. They will need to know more about the process first, so do your research. Why do you want to become a foster parent? Knowing what motivates you will help you frame the conversation with your spouse.
Remember – both spouses wanting to foster is only the first step. You’ll need to make sure that becoming foster parents is right for you. For example, you will need a spare room to foster. You will also need to be over the age of 21.
If you want to make a difference in a child’s life, have an open and honest conversation with your spouse. Fostering is an incredible path to take, and here at Orange Grove Foster Care, we help every step of the way.
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